No Day Without A Thought

Don’t seek idols, have inspiration and pick what you like from other people. There is likely no person you like the complete package. So laziness to just take the negative parts, create the positive parts for yourself. Everyone suffering

In a sense that you thinking like "I want to be that person" is not really self-worthy talk and putting yourself in a good light/how you should talk about yourself and your own potential.

What often gets missed is the flaws and struggles of a person. You might only see them in the spotlight or when they are doing what they are good in, but you don't know the whole person. Either from what genuine weaknesses they have or from the other side, how shitty they behave towards XYZ/have bad values.

Even if that is not the case, be happy for them, there is no concept of unfairness. Everyone is played a hand and it's on you to make the most of yours. Luck will play a role, you also make your own luck, people will help you either actively or by not being nice to show you what you don't like.

And for sure, there will be people who inspire you and you should find inspiration in people. However, don't idealize them as non-plus ultra. Figure out what inspires you from a person and pick what you want from different people. From one person you might want their manners, others their easy going attitude, from others their kindness, from others their eagerness and ambition, ...

Create your own best version, pick the parts you like and in what balance they work for you and become that person. Obviously, this will change over time, many times, your values might not change completely, but in what balance they live together or you will be able to live up to them in the moment will change.

Following the my previous post about the daily morning and evening journaling, I want to dig deeper into setting intentions:

Setting intentions for everything helps me to not just get pushed through the day, 5min there, 5min there, meeting that person, chit chat about this and that and after finally getting through the day falling into bed and up for the next day run.

I am currently trying to literally set intentions for everything. Let's run through the example today Saturday

• wake up and just lie in bed with my phone
  Since I started coaching I can't remember when was the last time I was able to properly sleep in. Ok, couldn't really sleep in this time either, but I wanted to have some time in bed just chilling.
• doing my morning routine and don't let it break to keep my mental game going
  Once I am in my routing, I usually only do it during the week, but it felt so good this week, that I want to keep doing it on the weekend. Especially when I am not drinking I can easily do that
  
• Coach a HIIT class and make it a damn good class
  After the crossfit regionals yesterday I can certainly feel a motivation push and really want to dig the sports track. The designed workout is fun, playlist works, this time I will push the guys even more and make it an awesome class
  
• 2hrs me time
  Damn, I've been missing the wknd me time. The daily stuff during the week is easier than the wknd time. The daily steps however are more tactical through the day, the wknd ones are the strategic ones which are obviously at least equally important. "Nothing is worse than efficiently going into the wrong direction." Intention is to go through each and single step to reflect, set goals for the next week and read some of my bookmarked articles
• Going to Nike's open gym to get to know calisthenics and ask how to become a Nike Master Trainer
• Design the workout for Monday and make it another great workout, setting the bar higher for myself
• meeting with friends and being fully present, because I went through all my personal points through the day and can shut that part of my brain off fully being there with them and asking them how they are, deepening the relationships
• Going to bad without having drunk alcohol to be fit tmrw!

I've started doing morning and especially evening journals again.

The last week, every day in the morning I went through the following points

Morning
- 3 things I am grateful for
- Goals for the day/intentions for the day
- Affirmation

Evening
- 3 things that were great
- 3 things that could have been better
- things I learned

Each of the questions/points comes with its own benefit(s). The point I am focusing on right now is especially the reflection in general in the evening. Looking back and investigating what was good/what could be better makes me more aware the next day to look out for the same patterns. So, let's say I have a quite unstructured day and didn't get a lot done, I will make sure to change that the next day.

Or if I was eating badly, I will make sure to set my day up to eat better.

Next time you are easily triggered or focus on other people, take a step back and see how far that actually brings you.

Are you showing strength by blowing up?

Are you showing empathy?

You might say you have every right to be mad. But what does it even bring? Does it come from a place of love, understanding and compassion?

Or are you feeling the other person deserve it, the universe deserve it, well, someone or something deserves it, because, fuck, you are feeling angry.

Remember, you can always set an example, be the change you want to see, and show your standpoint without getting angry and still being strong and exactly the opposite of weak.