Growth mindest makes your self assessment more accurate

So, first of all, hello people, been neglecting this site a bit purposely in favor of becoming my first fitness trainer license and getting into the game.

I've also recently tried to start some books, but somehow didn't get into it, so this time just picked a book which has been sitting on my bookshelf for a while, but felt "too much right up my alley" to be sth new. But, let's get the ball rolling first and then switch to others #habitbuilding #starteasy or maybe never reading them #naval

ANYWAY

The book is: Mindset https://www.amazon.de/Mindset-Psychology-Carol-S-Dweck/dp/0345472322


So far, seems to be mostly about the difference between growth and fixed mindset. Growth mindset being an approach to life that you are "you", but their is a fair amount of how you yourself can influence the "you". People having a fixed mindset take their state is a given and without much power to change anything about themselves.

Meaning, the one side things you can become more intellectual, the other doesn't.
Meaning, the one side things you can change your behavior and responses to the world, the other things you are just the way you are, deal with it.


One of the first points the book is making - which is actually pretty obvious - is that they make a test for people to self assess them and how bad we are at it. However, only if looking at the average of the whole cohort. It was the fixed mindset people who were quite inaccurate, the growth mindset folks however seemed to be pretty accurate?

Haven't reached the conclusion part yet, but seems pretty obvious. If you live in a world where you can't change yourself, there is likely a fair amount of biases and insecurities playing into your self assessment, like selling yourself better, because that's all you got - or not looking stupid and fear of exposure.

The growth mindset however inherently means that you can change, so "you" are never done. That makes your current "you" a temporary state and every outside assessment is a feedback loop how you can improve. Hence, by that, you are out for learning and a base for learning is to decide what to learn and what to focus on, so knowing where you stand on different fronts and making assessments about yourself.


Now, not sure about the science behind, so taking it with a grain of salt to see this as a general rule, but as a first framework/approach that makes sense to me and then I am also sure that also people with a growth mindset have biases and insecurities making not all of them a Lucky Luke in self assessment.

Daily routines are great, making the right steps is better

"What do you mean even with the title?"

Well, I've been feeling a bit stuck on a couple of issues. So, despite stressing about daily routines and making sure I *at least* do them, they are not having too big of an impact if you are not doing the important things.

Made up example: great that you stick to reading 10 pages a day, but if you are still struggling financially and doing 0 steps to changing it - even though it's a goal of yours - the 10 pages won't satisfy you, because sth more underlying is bothering you.

Now, it's up to you what is important and if you have enough money, are fit enough, are around the right people, if reading 10 pages is all you want. All I am saying, don't get distracted by the small things and rather do what's uncomfortable and get that out of the way or at least schedule activities/steps to that state.

4 packs of "The obstacle is the way"

https://tim.blog/2018/06/10/how-to-succeed-in-high-stress-situations/

- emotional stability and not letting yourself run by them

NASA when training their astronauts spends most time on mental game and going through all possible scenarios over and over again. follow the rational and checklists instead of a fight or flight reaction, punching against the machines like back in the days with your computer. not that emotions are not there, or you shouldn't use them, but let them out with control. if you need to cry, cry. but if you get angry and suddenly start a social media shitstorm on your ex's wall, might not be the best way for all sides.

- trust the process

sorta similar to the first one, but that was the one where I was thinking "damn, people are mostly the same, it's literally the mental models/ways of thinking that will differentiate us". Let's say you want to buy a house, it's not that you can just go out and buy it. There is multiple steps inbetween that you need to lay out and then trust the process to go through them.

- love everything

appreciate every situation how it happens. instead of being in a fantasy world of your expectations, be in the now and take what's there. things don't happen against but for you. thomas edison, when his factory burned down and he was standing in front of it knowing he can't do anything any more he told his son to pick up his sister and mum "they won't ever see such a big fire again". there was nothing else to do.

- using whatever is happening there for you

blitzkrieg and the strength of them was actually also their weakness. got a bad boss, might as well learn from it and use it for yourself. don't get blinded and reactive, be a step ahead and learn from it. 

When you pick a screen you devalue the present and where you are

Often when you pick up your phone you state to your environment that you value the interaction with somewhere else in the world/someone else more than where you are/who you are with.

Looking at pictures on Instagram, why not just look around and study/value what's around you.

Are at a party and write with someone from home.

Writing emails why you are in a meeting where everyone's attention is needed.


Real things happen in real life. Engage in the moment and create moments where you want to be present.