As i wrote in one of my previous posts:
"If you have been following my writing, you might notice a recurring event. Every once in a while it gets quiet here, before there is a blog post like this, when I pull myself out again to hit the keyboard."
I have to admit that over the last months - I can't pin point exactly to what status in my life or feeling triggered it - I got less and less strict about my consciously and well placed habits aka every day/weekly processes.
Might be that I achieved a baseline that was enough? I don't know. I am lazy and not really ambitious by default tbh, so I vividly know that since I first went for a study abroad term in Australia with kids of parents with money that I purposely invested a lot into self development for 8 years.
What stroke me back then is, everyone of my family or friends always had this somehow untouchable picture of people with higher status and potentially more money. However, they were not, they were super friendly, potentially even friendlier than many other people I hung out back then.
Additionally, or more importantly, what was different is their manners, focus, work ethics and mindset they operate on. Don't get me wrong, they drank as well, also hung out at the beach for some downtime, but they did study hard during the day making sure they achieve their goals.
Also mindset wise and from a self perspective speaking the best example for me was on one day when we wearing a tshirt from university for a pub crawl or so (all about balance in life;) and I said "damn, those people who see us likely think 'who are those idiots?'" and one of the guys replied with "what? they probably think 'who are those awesome people!'"
Ok, obviously you should not take yourself too seriously and also have a general sense of self awareness. More importantly, your self image will define where you end up in the world. If your self image is being a worker, who gets a monthly paycheck for the same money and taking orders from your boss - that's where you will end up.
With a long side story here, coming back to the start of the post.
Since, by nature I probably don't have a great self image/need to fight the lazy dude within me, I need to have processes in place to keep myself on track. My goal is also not to be super rich, I rather focus on values, mental models and balanced/focused/empathetic state of mind and goals like becoming a fitness coach.
I build myself. Ja ok, not entirely;) my parents, friends, colleagues, random people in the ubahn, everyone has their impact on my life. But again, for the last 6 years I actively pushed myself to become a better version.
For me, I reached a certain threshold, so I could be on my standards even when slipping on my processes from time to time. But I have to admit that I reached a point, where my baseline is not there any more.
Even though I take "me time", I hang on my phone reading Donald Trump tweets, check another episode of lions hunting in the wild (bc I like safaris), or just not doing my daily workouts, meditation, proper weekly goal setting.
Unconsciously, I also did let a bit go to see if I can be a bit "gentler" on myself and things will work out too.
Let's say, the current setup was not working. Granted, constant pushing is not necessary, but the baseline needs to be there.
Guess finding your balance is a constant struggle throughout life. Especially as life situations changes, you'll always need to adapt yourself.
Wow, this turned out to be way longer than expected. Would assume I haven't done much reflection that now all spills out.
With that: try processes, habits, actions, rituals that work for you. If you feel they make you a better version, stick to them - constantly.
