Things can happen to you or for you

There is a hundred thousands of things happening all day. Small things or big things. The sun shines, you got married, the ice cream is great, someone rejected you, someone said thank you to you, another one didn't.

You decide how you react and what you take out of it (could also simply be nothing).

Just be aware and what things do to you. Be curious and in a constant mindset of learning and observation.

If you are stuck in your own thoughts and take everything that it happens to you, you will always be reactive. If you flip it around, have an intention and you observe how things happen with a clear mind, you will be in more control and not so dependant on what happens. And even the things that happen, you will understand them better and will get smarter about how to handle them the next time.

Never assume

Know the feeling when you think about what the other person (might) think of you and that affects how you feel about yourself?

And then you find out that the other person wasn't even thinking about you?

In our every day life, it is already a lot to just figure ourselves out, be alone also thinking about others AND what we assume they think about us. Additionally, our judgements are absolutely not accurate. Nothing against you, you might even be better than others (btw. we all think we are). However, there is just 0 chance you know everything about the other person's life, in terms of what happened and even less what's going on in them.

Maybe someone spilled coffee over them this morning and they are in a bad mood and not as empathetic or the other way, they just won the lottery but you will never find out, but sense their good mood, making them self absorbed for the day. 

You get the idea, how tf should you know. Besides, keeping so many streams in your head just takes a lot of energy. Never assuming, if you feel sth is off, openly speaking about it and until then defaulting to sth good seems like a healthier way of dealing with things. 

At least for me.

Missing a habit, is it bad or good?

Next time you don't manage to follow through to do sth you tried to do on a consistent basis, i.e. meditation every day, working out, eating healthy, idk, instead of judging, doubting and feeling bad about yourself think of the fact that this is apparently something you deeply care about it.

That is a great learning and you should take it to prioritise it more over time. You already did your first steps. Give yourself the pleasure of feeling great after doing it and knowing you put a lot of value on self-care and self-esteem.


On the other side, if you basically just feel bad because you see yourself as a person who needs to push through even though you actually don't like the activity. Well, then it's maybe not for you and that's ok. But don't use that as a simple excuse for treating your body and mind poorly.

Might as well be that the current setup is not working, i.e. if you want to floss, might as well be enough to do it in the morning hours when you are still full of willpower, instead of being exhausted at night and talking yourself out of it.

Embrace empathy

When you are talking with someone, no matter if a friend, family, acquaintances or a complete stranger and you are hearing sth that doesn't fit with your believe system or general view of life/how things are - how do you react?

Is your impulse to at least be friendly, but in your head, you are already structuring your response of how you disagree and the other person should at it in another way, aka your way?

- no one has the same experience as you, literally no one
- in that particularly moment, you might be in a different state than you normally are, i.e. angry, hungry, stressed
- your view might still be right
- and all the points apply to the other person

And, after all, does someone need to be right? Are you using it to proof to yourself that how you lead your life is so good that you need to convince everyone else of the same?

Show empathy. People have different values. People have different experiences. People are in different emotional states at any moment. Listen. Ask questions. Actually listen, don't think of your next sentence. You might actually learn a thing or two.

iPhone home screens

iPhone home screens of other people. I am not sure why or how I can describe it to other people, but looking at other people's home screen gets me excited like a little kid opening a Überraschungsei - yes, they are allowed in Germany.

Having said that, I easily spent 1hour already looking through different versions after seeing the tweet below. As follow up steps, I downloaded a fair amount of apps to test, will add new ones, replace old ones or also just delete some to eventually have a cleaner phone.

Maybe you are also finding your new favorite app:)