No Day Without A Thought

There is a lot written about how getting started is the most important part. Or how showing up is already beating 80% of goal. Or the famous quote of Abraham Lincoln (because every quote is by Abraham Lincoln): "Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe."

However, there is also an art about finishing what you started.

- Some people actually spend so much time prepping, they never go out into the wild and face the real world. Remember the time in school when you waited so long until you started learning. There was no way you could actually get an A. So you have the simple excuse "if I would have learned earlier". Well, show us that "if you...". This is just an example and there is plenty of cases out there where ppl start and never actually take the battle, i.e. working on an idea for years and never publishing it publicly, so it doesn't become a reality.

- If your goal is to lose weight and you already had a unhealthy lunch that doesn't mean you can now go all in for the rest of the day. You can always win the day back. One bad meal is better than two bad meals + candy + ice cream after. Seems obvious, but I also have been there to rationalise my behaviour that is then ok.

Same goes the other way around. You're saying you don't have time to workout for 1hr today, so might as well not workout at all. Why not?

- "I first need to do this, so I can start my project." i.e. you spend more time making a plan/colorful bullet journal before actual doing the work. "I first need to clean x, do y so I can get started." Right, before publishing your book, you first need to meet your friend that you only meet 1x a year even though living in the same city.

- Measure what you do and how you spent your time. Data is real and will make you more honest with yourself.

=> There is truth in knowing where you want to go, so you are actually taking the steps into the right direction. “If effectiveness is doing the right things, efficiency is doing things right.” So doing the wrong things efficiently is actually your fastest way in the wrong direction. I am a huge believer in making a plan for your life and having a vision. However, I am pretty sure you can already start leading some aspects of that vision while clarifying/crystallizing what that is.

=> Depending on the project (or maybe forever), you should clearly declare and be fine with it for yourself that you can't do everything. So when you need to finish a certain project, well then there might be more trash at home, you will eat out more, or when your kid is born you will decide to work less to still have personal learning time.

Give yourself the gift of finishing and accomplishing your goals and don't be your own worst enemy.

The nights I am sitting in front of my laptop to hit the keyboard, thinking about what I should write, I always come back to

- (emotional) self awareness
- self esteem
- self control
- actively/purposely choosing happiness and trust vs negativity and accusation
- radical transparency
- complete ownership of action and emotions

Get your own head and emotions in order, or at least be curious about why all that is. Don't be too harsh on yourself and don't judge, just come with a positive mindset saying "here, this is me today, I am not perfect, but I am happy with who I am and the decisions I've done until now. I want to improve and seek new knowledge and have my worldviews challenged and expanded by other people's wisdom and experience, let's bet better together. In that process I expect respect/tolerance, letting be, support and curiosity as base to open up."

You don't need to be right and what works for you is not what works for others. Disagreeing is fine, as long as the fundaments are not being violated, i.e. purposely hurting someone.

By being your true self, opening up, showing your vulnerability/weaknesses/mistakes and owning them you show that you are a human. Not being emotional sabotaging/challenging, people around you will appreciate your authentic and honest being and will do respond in a similar manner which is a great base to create a truly amazing bond.

Let your guard down and be you. No need to lie your way out to keep a fake self image, i.e. reacting defensively to feedback, because you think the other person has no idea or it is against your self protection, or for example there is a history with your father. Own it. People feel when something is off and will know they can't open up to you, because you reacted that way. There is sth hidden and the person doesn't know why which makes them suspicious.

The real, vulnerable and curious person would say "Thank you. I know you didn't mean it that way, I just have a background story to that with my dad and he told me this multiple times which actually effected me a lot and was the reason that I've been insecure for years. Could you explain what you exactly meant, so I can finally get past this."

Damn, without giving myself a clap, but if I would hear a person respond that way I would be like "damn, they have their shit together, I want to be like that." This is inspiring and would clearly illustrate that you can come to this person with every topic, no matter what. A trustworthy person who is fine with speaking about themselves without a hidden agenda or playing games.

Obviously, there is likely always sth going on, but the decision to stay curious and not judging, picking positivity and trust will bring you on a great path which will make life so much easier and happier.


ps. "easier" also comes from a conversation I recently had about work. Imagine complete trust across the team, there is no time wasted with asking "how should I lead the conversation, was that too rude" etc, because everyone is on the same page, trusts and wants to best for the other person and knows that feeling is mutual.
Same clearly applies to the personal life.

- make a website
- collect emails
- write about projects and process you are going through + learnings, what's needed, how you can help
- share across websites + via email
- create your voice and crew

nuff said.

- no games

- own yourself

- be vulnerable

- chose not to fight but start with the mindset you want to solve sth

A nice German saying basically indication the importance and/or benefit of doing something right away in case you are able to do. Don't procrastinate. If you can do it today, do it today.

I'm telling this while looking around in my room which is just full of stuff because I haven't been cleaning the last week. But I am also quite tired frankly speaking. However, I will make this here short and instead spend 15-20min cleaning before jumping into my bed for a well deserved night sleep.

Why? Because self-worthiness and when I wake up tmrw morning, it will be a way nicer morning than still needing to clean everything.

Namaste!