I just went to lunch with a, well, I would call him "friend".
However, we hardly meet and are certainly not up to date with every day to day updates of each other. But sometimes either every month we are in touch with each other, or other times once in 2 years. Basically how we feel, or maybe how much the other person can help the other one?
Either way
We went to lunch and suddenly he told me that his wife was pregnant, 10weeks in and lost the child the previous day.
FUCK ME! That's a smooth way into "hey, how are you doing".
Well, short story here: they are both super positiv people. The mother is healthy and the baby was unexpected and rather a surprise to begin with.
Considering the surprise of suddenly being pregnant they faced tough questions and old topics rose up and need to be tackled for good now, as this now means serious business/relationship.
So, once they found out the embryo is dead, they immediately switched into what good things happened since then. They are getting are bigger place, they are getting married, he is bumped it didn't work but happy to feel that he is ready for being a dad, she is kind of happy, because it was not her "decision" to be pregnant and rather felt on her. So, lots of positives and now they are already sure to try again in half a year.
Love it!:)
Anyway, solid side tracking, but the story is still in my head being processed, as he was just sitting in front of me while he just lost his child the day before. Again, WTF!
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Point is: we are hardly "real" friends, but feel quite comfortable with each other's company, talking deep and asking tough questions about each others mental/emotional state and life situation/blockers. So we are thinking about making a group to meet every month or so to just ask uncomfortable questions, find out about each other's vision, what's blocking us etc. Because friends, spouses, family, and yourself might be too nice to ask the really tough questions to actually face struggles and change things in your life faster.
Easy decisions, hard life. Hard decisions, easy life.
Make love!